Trust the Process

28 January 2023
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28 January 2023 dougsxmpson

Admittedly, at times, I want to skip steps. You know, the uncomfortable, tedious parts of a process. Sometimes you want to just get to the result. The finished product. The end. So you can finally begin.

What I have learned is, unfortunately, there is no skipping steps in a process if the goal is to win or succeed. Whether its career, health and wellness, family, friends, and/or relationships, all steps must be taken including the uncomfortable ones. You can never truly the wins without the challenges. Pound of flesh.

My experiences have surrounded me with some who want it yesterday. Battering ram, spammy approach. Misinterpreted definition of “not taking ‘no’ for answer”. The absence of empathy, combined with entitlement and a pinch of narcissism is a dangerous combo.

I have been retraining myself to control and moderate ego, pride and self-loathing. I expect great things all while giving myself grace. A day at a time. It’s not easy. Conditioning is real. De-programming then re-programming that conditioning is a mutha.

Some days I just have to stop. I am exhausted. Weary, mentally mainly. But I know I’d be doing myself a disservice by continuing when I’m not in the correct headspace.

Busy in fear is dangerous. Productive with purpose is golden.

Home-cooked always beats microwaved. Even when it’s daunting, scary and lonely. The win’s yours regardless of what you “see”. Trust the process.


Composer, producer, songwriter and recording artist Doug Sxmpson has written and produced songs that has spanned network and cable television, documentaries as well as independent and major motion pictures. Doug Sxmpson’s work has been featured and supported shows like Blue Bloods (CBS), Millionaire Matchmaker (VH1), Cribs, Pimp my Ride, Super Sweet Sixteen, Made, True Life (MTV, MTV2), Ray Donovan (Showtime), First Look: Straight Outta Compton (HBO) and a host of other reality shows, dramas and documentaries. Doug’s catalog has also been featured in independent films and specials such as A River Washes Over Me and Owen Smith’s comedy special. Doug’s first major motion picture placements were two songs in Universal Pictures Fast Five (2011), followed by music in Universal Pictures Fast & Furious 6 (2013) and Despicable Me 2 (2013). In 2012, Doug Sxmpson became the recipient of the ASCAP Plus Award, an award from the performing rights organization, which recognizes a songwriter’s creative contribution to American music. Doug continues to compose, write and record music for film and television, most recently having his work featured in Grown-ish (ABC/Free Form) as a performing artist and producer, as a composer and music supervisor for One Bedroom and as a music producer/composer for "House Rules", a series on iOS/Android app Hooked.